"I am healed."
You see that your life is more than just a reaction to abuse.
There were other, more positive forces that had shaped me as a child. I had other things I could draw on.
When you stop longing for a rescue from unlikely sources, you open the way to realistic richness in your life.
If I hadn't come to terms with the reality of my family, the only option I would have had was to repeat it all over again.
I begin to relate more to the person who I was becoming, rather than the person I had been.
I am the person I was before I ever got abused.
The fearful child in me doesn't want to be forgotten. So I have to reassure her that my getting better doesn't mean I'm abandoning her or denying her pain.
When you let go of the need for crisis, you make room for the rich and varied textures of ordinary life.
With practice, you can find contentment in small things listening to music, cooking dinner, taking walks.
Make a list of things you dreamed of doing or becoming. This kind of self-discovery is something no one can take away from you. It is more rewarding than any crisis.
Part of healing is doing what you want to do, those things that will give you both fulfillment and pleasure. You don't have to wait.
If I'm really going to love myself totally, then I had to love all of me, and this is a part of who I am.
You will find that you have energy available to direct into creative pursuits.
" I feel more peaceful. I feel like I'm normal now. "
I'm thriving as opposed to surviving. I'm more completely myself almost all the time. In fact, I am myself all the time.
Your first allegiance must always be to yourself.