From when you dare to broach this subject, to when you have told so many times in so many ways that you can talk about it naturally, just as another part of your life.

It was a way to get back at them. Like "I'm going to tell on you. " It's kind of like "I couldn't get anybody mad at you then, but watch this!"

I told not like a victim, but like a little kid that hurt.

I don't run around telling every soul I meet that I'm an incest victim, because I don't want that to be my definition, but I went through a period of time when it was just about like that.

Considerations:
Does this person care for me and respect me?

Does this person have my well-being in mind?

Is this someone I've been able to discuss feelings with before?

Do I trust this person?

Do I feel safe with this person?

If they have not given recovered their memories, all their defenses may ring in alarm, trying to protect them from their own remembering.

"People like victims. There'a an animal part in people, and they get excited, and they'll just jump on you. "

There is a weeding out that goes on in relationships when you start to share who you really are, how you genuinely feel.

Telling:
Tell it as if the power of children were respected.

Tell it as domestic terrorism.

Tell it as if we liked it.

Tell it as justification for nuclear war.

Tell it as a healing ritual.

Tell it as a map of the world.

Tell it so it will never happen again

 

 

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