Rule # 62.4.9
The wisest man about food I ever met said to me “Fat is anger”.
If we have overeating issues, that are not neurochemically based and therefore require professional medical supervision, honesty about anger can be a useful guiding tool to losing, and more importantly, maintaining weight loss.
“Ingestion Analgesia” is fairly recondite term that just means you feel better from the stresses of life after you eat.
That’s perfectly natural, but if that coping mechanism becomes habitual, becoming overweight…is also equally natural.
There are some good, reliable resources to determine whether or not you are overweight.
The Center for Disease Control, The National Institute of Mental Health and The Mayo Clinic all have simple apps that you can enter your age, height, weight and sex and you will get a reasonable estimate on whether or not this is an issue that is worth investigating in your life.
How does this happen?
If someone says or does something, and I feel hurt, it is natural to feel angry.
But, if I am not honest about my anger, at least with myself, then, as a misuser of food, that dishonesty typically goes one of three places: depression, passive aggression…or fat.
It can go another place…violence.
This can range from an irrational outburst of verbal violence in the form of yelling, use of obscenity and or profanity when expressing anger, shaming, blaming or one of the myriad forms of physical violence.
Sadly, this is typically aimed at whoever is nearest, our wives, our parents and even more tragically at our most beloved …our children. Then our mistake is “passed on to the fourth generation” and the cycle is perpetuated
It is time to Act With Courage…and change.
F Office…The Promises of Chastity
Efficient perceptions of reality…We have the ability to judge situations correctly and honestly. We are very sensitive to the dishonest. Rather than being fearful of things that are different or unknown, we are able to view things logically and rationally.
Comfortable acceptance of self and others...We accept ourselves and others as they are. We tend to lack inhibition, are able to enjoy ourselves, and live our lives guilt free. We accept, with humor and tolerance, our own human nature with all its flaws, the shortcomings of others, and the contradictions of the human condition. Other people are treated the same regardless of their background, race, culture, or socio-economic status.
Spontaneity…We extend our creativity into our everyday activities. We tend to be unusually alive, engaged and spontaneous. We follow generally accepted social expectations, but do not feel confined by these norms and are spontaneous in our internal thoughts and our external behaviors. We are open and unconventional.
Task centering…We are motivated by a strong sense of personal ethics and responsibility, applying our problem-solving skills to real-world situations and helping other people improve their own lives. Each of us has a mission, outside of ourselves, to pursue and fulfill in life.
Autonomy...We are free from reliance on external authorities or other people. We tend to be resourceful and independent. We do not conform to other people's ideas of happiness or contentment.
Continued freshness of appreciation…We constantly renew our appreciation of life's basic goodness. A sunset will be experienced as intensely, with the same wonder and awe, every time, as it was the first time. We live in the moment and appreciate the beauty of each experience.
Fellowship with humanity…We will feel a deep identification with others and the human situation in general and yet, we feel we are an important part of humanity.
Profound interpersonal relationships…Our interpersonal relationships are marked by deep loving bonds and we grieve appropriately with their closure.
Comfort with solitude…Despite our satisfying relationships with others, we value solitude and are comfortable being alone. It is essential for us to have time to focus on personal discovery and for cultivating our individual potential.
Non-hostile sense of humor…We have the wonderful capacity to laugh at ourselves and situations but do not shame others with this capacity.
Peak experiences…We have frequent occurrences of peak experiences. These experiences are marked by feelings of ecstasy, harmony, and deep meaning. We will feel at one with the universe, filled with its beauty and goodness, feeling simultaneously more powerful yet more helpless, feeling stronger yet more calm than ever before. Afterwards, we have the conviction that something extremely important and valuable has happened to us, so that we are transformed and strengthened in our daily lives by each such experience.
We have the gifts of...clarity, intuition, personal power in relationships, resilience and visions…