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Help me to take care of myself in chastity.
I will feel more.
Hurt is one of the feelings I will feel more.
When I feel hurt help me to remember that I need my anger more to protect me from feeling victimized, which is the number one addictive trigger to cause failure at chastity.
I am going to feel angry more…or I am not going to make it.
I commit to feel my anger…
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Chastity-Suffering and Character building:
“But whenever we had to choose between character and comfort, the character-building was lost in the dust of our chase after what we thought was happiness.”
“Seldom did we look at character-building as something desirable in itself, something we would like to strive for whether our instinctual needs were met or not.”
“We never wanted to deal with the fact of suffering.”
“Character-building through suffering might be all right for saints, but it certainly didn't appeal to us.”
As a child, the suffering I experienced was at my parents hands, so I revolt at the injustice of that suffering. But I am a man now.
I can choose to suffer (which simply means that I feel the meta-feeling of hurt, needy, sad and lonely).
When I surrender what I want (which is to be sexual right now) I can build my character…I can “Man up”…one day at a time.
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While there are many, many things to do to become enlightened, to walk through that door, for me, with my mindset… I can only enter through chastity.
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HP, I am challenged in my life today.
Help me to remember that when I am challenged I have a tool which clarifies my mind, incites intuition, gives me personal power in relationships, and most preciously, resilience in relationship and that ultimate gift of self-love is...chastity.
Gandhi said “Suffice it to say that with the gradual disappearance of the carnal appetite my domestic life became and is becoming more and more peaceful, sweet and happy”.
Chastity is also the key to my soul and in knowing my soul…I do not need anything else to fulfill me.
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My path, for me, is as a chaste, living foodist.
After that...I accept life
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HP, help me to be grateful that I am free from:
- Alcohol
- Drugs
- Cigarettes
- Coffee
- Masturbation/Affairs
- Fat
- ACA
- Coda
- Narcissism
- Alanon
- Anon-anonism
- Victimhood
- Workaholism
- Debting
- Underearning
- Gambling
- Artistic and Mystical Preoccupations
- Love Addiction
- Romance Addiction
- Relationship Addiction
- Sexaholism
- Media Addiction
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“In brahmacharya lies the protection of the body the mind and the soul”.
_Gandhi
It is true. I feel:
More resilient socially
More energetic
More athletic
Have a purer, more serene mind
Am more attentive to business
More intuitively in touch with my Higher Power
Stronger
More artistic
More fun loving
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Gandhi says food affects sexuality.
Healthy Food Benefits:
Lust diminishes
Sexual shame from negative body image disappears
Clothes fit
Feel muscular curvature in abdomen
Mind is more relaxed, harmonious
Thoughts more integrated and quicker
Breath more deeply, easily and smoothly
Headaches, pinpointed and full cranial, vanish
Skin clears up
Joints stop aching
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“A man dissipates his physical strength through ordinary incontinence”.
_Gandhi
Incontinence in this sense means “Failure to restrain sexual appetite”.
Is that really true? Does sex make you weak? Do you really lose your strength?
Pythagorus, Plato, Gandhi and that great philosopher Rocky Balboa thought so.
Now, honestly, I never noticed any energy loss when I had major alcohol, pills, caffeine or tobacco rollin’ through my system. I was just too dumb-numbed to notice much except orgasm.
There are two kinds of loss.
The first accompanies doing something I know full well is wrong, like cheating on my wife or masturbating. I then feel “Pitiful and incomprehensible demoralization”. That is the stuff sex addiction programs deal with.
But that is not what Gandhi is talking about.
He is saying that there is some energy inside a man’s body, kind of like two cylinders of an eight cylinder engine, that when I employ my body for sexual activity that that energy is not available for other activities.
It’s just physics...nothing personal.