Chastity Office 300
I talked to a man for 45 minutes today.
He had been chaste and felt reasonably free.
He stopped being chaste and felt fairly challenged.
In May of 1990 after doing my first celibacy period (7 1/2 months) and starting a very active committed monogamous relationship for 4 months, I suddenly realized that sexual sobriety and chastity were not the exact same states of being.
One required more sacrifice…but, gave more gifts.
I felt so cheated, so let down, almost betrayed.
Why didn’t anyone tell me that?
Back then, no one really knew…Now we do.
Active, healthy sexuality is lovely. It is “God given” according to the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous.
But, luckily for me, my S-Anon sponsor also told me, “Chastity is a special state of Grace”.
Ya pay ya nickel…and ya take ya choice
Chastity Office 301
The Dalai Lama teaches only one spiritual Truth…Kindness
Here are a couple of his quotes:
“My religion is very simple. My religion is kindness.”
“This is my simple religion. No need for temples. No need for complicated philosophy. Your own mind, your own heart are the temple. My philosophy is simple kindness.”
In the past year therapy didn’t work, 12 step didn’t work, religion didn’t work…in improving my relationship with my wife.
Only kindness worked…
Chastity Office 302
I get my peace of mind from “No Sex Except To Create Children”.
It makes me “Sure of my life”.
Do I really want to let that go? That sureness of life?
Saw the new Celine Dion romantic comedy movie yesterday.
I cried four times, as my heart was wrenched out of my body, as a couple in their 30’s was hammering their way through their respective struggles for true love.
It leads you to believe that romantic love is the most important thing in life. Every popular song and every Victorian novel espouses this belief, fervently.
There is still a part of me that believes that being alone with Chastity just might be a manifestation of unresolved ACA issues and that I will be joyfully relieved of this loneliness (which is not loneliness, but rather just aloneness) with the oncoming of new romantic love…Baloney!
Chastity Office 303
MJ calls me The Abbot. I call him The Prior.
In an effort to improve our Chastity we both went to a “ Plant based Food Addicts Anonymous” meeting today.
Smokeless Brian is finishing an 18 day Biblical fast from meat, dairy and alcohol called the Daniel Fast.
We just want to get a little better…
Chastity Office 304
My son and I went to a Regatta today, four blocks away, in the San Francisco Bay:
Sailing ships, helicopters, firetrucks, kites, flags, bicycle races, waterfalls, ice cream (for him) and Hip-hop on a gorgeous 60 degree, sunny day.
Now, I’m guessing, there were probably beautiful women there, but I didn’t even notice.
Thank you God for freedom from objectification, fantasy and intrigue….Thank you
Chastity Office 305
Why do people get fat when they get old?
When you don’t have sex the most sensual thing you do is eat…
Maybe old fat people…just miss sex.
Chastity Office 306
Today, Monday May 8, 2023 is 15 months of Chastity.
I am humbly grateful to God, and the men at PrayerCall, for being the support needed to stay reasonably comfortable being chaste.
Thanks for allowing me to serve you. That’s where the Power of God comes from, for me.
Really thanks…
Chastity Office 307
According to that blessed Tome of Truth, the Internet, kindness is defined as the quality of being “friendly, generous, and considerate”.
Yeah. That’s doable…