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Saw Morgan Freeman’s new movie about an old alcoholic and a young oxycontin addict.

The movie centers around the concept of “Amor Fati”, which is a choice “To Love One’s Fate”.

It is apparently God’s Plan for me to spend my life chastely and help other men find their way through at least one 60 day period of Chastity (as we believe that all healthy men can go for 60 days without sex, of any description.)

Amor Fati…

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Today April 8, 2023 is 14 months of Chastity, for me.

I was pretty eager to get the first year.

Now, honestly, upon occasion, I weary of it.

But, I am not tired of the benefits…like being ultra-present for my son.

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I’ve been attending O-Anon for the last three months.

It’s for friends and family members of people with disordered eating, like Al-Anon except for food.

Today, I heard a frustrated husband shout out “I don’t have sex with fat people”.

Everyone was shocked, but you could tell from the men in the rooms faces that they all got what he was feeling.

I had two thoughts when I heard that:

This guy doesn’t understand that this is a disease we are dealing with.

…and more aptly, “This guy’s never getting laid again”.

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For 35 years I have worked on my food to feel good and to look good.

I want to take Gandhi’s following admonitions a little bit more seriously:

“I found that complete control of the palate made the observance of the Chastity vow very easy.”

“Fasting is as necessary as selection and restriction in diet.”

“The extinction of the sexual passion is as a rule impossible without fasting.”

I have briefly flirted with these ideas, but I want to take another stab at them as guides for the quantities and quality of my food choices.

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If I truly believe in no sex except to create children”.… Then, I feel sad when I think that, because that would mean I’m never going to have sex again in my life.

But, that is future tripping.

On the other hand, when I think of how wonderful life is chaste, as I watch my son play outside in the YMCA Y-Kid’s… I couldn’t be happier.

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Patrick Carnes, the founder of Sex Addiction Recovery, said “ The sexual sobriety definition is a well worn document”, meaning  that , over the years, needs change.

Here are my current Three Circles:

Inner Circle: No sex except to create children; A Vow of Chastity…one day, three hours at a time

Middle Circle: Eschew six hurtful things: Coffee, Cigars, Tamsulosin, Nicorette, Tea, Chocolate Mousse

Outer Circle: Exercise a lot, constantly work on Food, and do lots of Breath Prayer