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Someone asked me “What are you going to do now that you have recovered and don’t need all that 12 step stuff anymore?

I told them “Live one day, three hours at a time.”

The person didn’t seem satisfied so I added: Have fun raising my son, write books, work out, teach, play music, serve others, pray and be grateful for what I have.

Some people don’t see 12 step as “real life”.

For me, it gives me life…

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Today, April 3, 2023 is 17 months of experimenting with a bottom line of no sex except to create children.

And you know, I haven’t created yet another “Hell hath no fury like a woman spurned” situation, by leaving, yet another woman.

I haven’t felt frustrated because my wife didn’t want to have sex with me, when I wanted to.

I haven’t had to soft-pedal any of that sweet talking junk I learned, early in my life, to persuade a woman to have sex with me... 

Haven’t felt obsessed with anyone…

Boy, that’s pleasant!

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Honestly, as tough as Chastity is, it ain’t enough…if I am still doing ancillary self-destructive behaviors.

Cause with Chastity I feel more…so doing bad stuff makes me feel even worser!

They all gotta go…one behavior, one day at a time.

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Why, you might ask all the emphasis on Chastity, since a lifetime of Chastity is clearly not our goal?

Because, even the most liberal of the Sex Addiction 12 Step Groups, Sex and love Addicts Anonymous states, “You need to go through withdrawal in order to become a whole person.”

We believe that a healthy man can do without any genital contact, with himself or others, for a minimum of 60 days.

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I saw an attractive woman in an AA meeting last night.

I thought to myself: What would it cost me to pursue her?

  1. I would lose 32 years and 9 months of sexual sobriety
  2. I would lose 14 months of Chastity
  3. I would lose 17 months of the new bottom line of “No sex except to create children”
  4. I would lose 7 weeks of experimenting with a Vow of Chastity
  5. I would lose my marriage
  6. I would lose my custody of my son

No…I am pretty much locked into this sexual sobriety/Chastity thing…three hours at a time.