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My spiritual relationship with God changes through the years.
For seven years it was about getting God to help me not drink alcohol.
For twenty nine years it was about getting God to help me not masturbate or cheat on my partners
Then, for five years it was about obeying God so I could stay thin.
For the last 14 months it’s about getting God to help me have no sex except to create children.
My relationship stays the same…it’s just the connecting points that change.
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“I’m not only my worst enemy, I’m the only real enemy I’ve got! “
Sexaholics White Book
“The enemy was US”
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous Primary Text
SLAA and SA are diametrically opposed to each other.
One fiercely opposes gay sex.
One fiercely supports it.
But, for our purposes, that does not matter.
What matters is they both completely agree that it is the addict who is the problem…not the spouse, parents, employer, National politics or world wide religions.
Again…
“I’m not only my worst enemy, I’m the only real enemy I’ve got! “
Sexaholics White Book
“The enemy was US”
Sex and Love Addicts Anonymous Primary Text
That’s really good news, because I can’t change other people, but, with God’s help…I can change myself.
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“But you must not eat of the Tree of Good and Evil”
Why?
Because then you spend all your time obsessing, trying to figure out what is good and what is evil…
Can I masturbate, but not use porn?
Can I have sex with this girl that I just met on the dating app tonight?
Are people who don’t eat flour and sugar just extremist perfectionists?
Pot is legal now, so it’s healthy now, right?
Ugh…it just gives me a headache to have to think about all this.
I could be watching Curious George, playing basketball, swimming or going to a kid’s science museum with my three-year old.
Everybody’s different, but there is a sober path for each of us…if we are honest and courageous enough to look.
Just eat the tree of obedience…it’s so much simpler and so much more fun.
“The tree of the knowledge of good and evil”, indeed.
More like “The tree of being a moron or not”.
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I went to an All Addictions Anonymous meeting based on the Sexual Inventory in the Fourth Step of the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous.
It was a very earnest, sincere and sober meeting.
They talked about the perniciousness of sexual fantasy, masturbation, affairs, pornography, objectification and flirting.
They talked about their disappointment with Alcoholics Anonymous and Sexaholics Anonymous to really, deeply emotionally, help them with their sex addiction.
I understood and related to everything everyone said.
But, something wasn’t right…
I was still hearing men holding onto their addiction.
There was an exception.
You could hear it in his voice, if you knew what to listen for.
He had given up sex, even within his marriage, seven years ago.
He was free. He was normal. The disease was not present.
Fourteen months ago I embraced no sex except to create children.
I am free. I am normal. The disease is not present.
That’s good enough for me…
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Resentful girls don’t have healthy minds
Depressed girls don’t have healthy minds
Plus-sized girls don’t have healthy minds
But…they are so easy to manipulate sexually.
That is so evil that it is hard to see…how truly lazy it is.
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“It is not good for the man to be alone”
No…He needs some who will cut off the sexual supply when he doesn’t like his mate’s mother, her cat, her hairstyle, favorite Tik-Tok artist, new shoes, investment plans, political views, food choices, exercise plan, career trajectory, childcare opinions, work friends or drinking habits.
When I hear that…being alone doesn’t sound all that bad.
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“Sex only to create children” has created two very novel female relationships in my life:
A woman raw organic vegan dessert chef who has come to my home three times and teaches me to make sugar-free organic desserts.
The woman downstairs, who was furiously banging on her ceiling whenever Gummy walked, is now a fan of my new desserts and is civil and pretty warmly communicative with me.
It is not affecting my primary relationship in any way…but, it is changing my relationships with all other women.
Women smile and talk to me now…who knew?
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My wife moved back in after nine months.
I am going to continue to practice chastity.
I just want to make sure I don’t have any love addiction around my wife.
I have not suffered from that addiction for over 35 years. But, I know that pain, that agony.
We have had two dates recently and I want to stay clear, for me.
I admit I am powerless
I believe I can be restored to sanity
I turn my life and will over to God
I do God’s will