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Guide to a Finite Period of Chastity

Warning:
I accept that I will be angry all my life as a celibate man.

The Seven Steps of Celibacy:

⇔ I accept that there is power in me

⇔ I sing, discipline my body, pray and meditate…everyday

⇔ I feel all my feelings...and share them where it is wise to

⇔ I am open to feedback from trustworthy people

⇔ I confront and set boundaries with others

⇔ I accept my limits

⇔ I laugh

 

If you can endure this "pathway to peace", for 60 days, you'll pretty much find the following "Promises" coming true.

The Celibate Promises:

⇔ We will be more available to our children

⇔ We will be more present and productive at work.

⇔ We will become stronger and more supple.

⇔ Our financial situations will clear up.

⇔ Our artistic and “spiritual” aspirations will be realized.

⇔ Self draining sexual/romantic relationships will suddenly wither and die

⇔ We will have more clarity, intuition and personal power.

⇔ We will have more fun.

⇔ We will finally...relax

 

Also, if you practice these Seven Steps, all your needs just might get met, perhaps for the first time in your life.

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Higher Power, help me to love myself today.

Help me to:

  • Stay in touch with my feelings
  • Set boundaries with those who are harmful
  • Announce limits so as not to harm myself.

Help keep me emotionally healthy by meeting my needs for:

  • Safety
  • Love and belonging
  • Esteem of others
  • Self-esteem

To fully actualize, or realize myself, help me meet my needs for:

  • Near constant Prayer
  • Self-transcendence through Service
  • Spirituality through connectedness, originally with God, then others, and finally, lastingly and constantly, with myself
  • Contentment through realization of my highest, realistically attainable goal
  • Creativity through creating beauty for the joy of it
  • Peace of mind through knowing my soul

 

The following slogans, while practicing chastity, turn out, surprisingly, to be God's incredibly simple will.

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I will:

Laugh at myself

Believe that I will get better

Trust God

Serve others

Have a positive attitude

Smile

Forgive myself

Pray

Read spiritual literature

Exercise

Forgive others

Manage my money

Relax

Do nothing

Have fun

Be aware of my food

Be conscious of my sexual choices

Announce limits

Grieve losses

Set boundaries

Accept reality

Feel my feelings

Meet my needs

Be self-restrained

Enjoy my choices

Share with others

Persevere

Connect

Practice self-discipline

Rejoice

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"To achieve chastity, be prepared to lose everything. Chastity is a ravaging force to which nothing seems sacred or inviolate. It rips to shreds the structures and foundations I built in weakness and ignorance."
Courage to Heal

Here are some slogans I use when I am practicing chastity that help me slog through the day when things get tough.

From DOH,DOJ:

"Talk doesn't cook rice."

 

This is Jesus's most ignored line from Matthew 19:11:

“There are those who choose to live like eunuchs to know the kingdom of heaven. If you can accept it, accept it”.

 

From our old friend Anonymous:

"Acceptance is being positive."

"I surrender my right to be sexual."

 

These next two quotes are from Solomon, who had 1000 wives. Can you imagine?

“Do not give your strength to women, your vigor to those who ruin kings." (It also applies to the guys, girls)

“Keep a path far from her, lest you give your best strength to others”.

 

This next gruesome comment is from Pythagorus:
“When should you have sex with a woman? When you want to lose the strength you have”.

Here are three from Gandhi:
“A man dissipates his physical strength through ordinary incontinence”.

"Control of the palate is the first essential in the observation of the vow."

and my favorite:
“Life without celibacy appears to me to be insipid and animal like”.

and one from SLAA:
“We did not squander our energy on addictive acting out, in spite of severe temptations to do so”.

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Chastity is not something you want to do for the rest of your life, unless you are a professional priest or monk, but, you also don't want to miss this experience for yourself.

"For some of us, however, there is no passage to life, only from one stage of dying to another. Too few lessons have been learned, too little wisdom has been gained for the wound to heal. There is nothing natural or guaranteed about a springtime of the spirit."

"Behind every marvelous tale of death – left– behind is a common theme of peak moments. These peak moments may occur as long as we live. Or they may not. Perhaps we'd better make a decision someday sooner than tomorrow."

"Healthy living demands enough of a central focus that something gets finished once it gets started. Lacking this we often return to fight the same battle once again."