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I have learned some things from watching my son that help me stay chaste:
His highest priority is to play as much as possible.
This may seem immature or even foolish…if you are a workaholic.
He creates a “Second Super-real world” when he plays, as the Psychotherapeutic genius Otto Rank would say.
That is a remarkably pure and simple model of mental health.
When my son needs to detach from his mother and I telling him to: put on his diapers, not throw his toys, clean up the mess from his spilt milk, take a bath, put on his shoes, don’t jump on the floor, etc. He simply “detaches with love”… And plays with his toys.
That’s a lesson I want to learn for a lifetime.
As all sex, love, romance, and relationship is gone in my life I can “Detach with love”, and make a “ Second super real world” with music and words…which helps me with my Chastity.
Thanks Gummy…for just being yourself.
Dad
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As an outer circle behavior, for five nights, after Gummy has gone to bed I’ve gone to hear 14 bands, in 6 night clubs.
Last night, I went with my bass player.
As soon as I sat down at one of the bars, in someone else’s seat, the woman who’s chair it was came up to me and made an extremely lewd suggestion.
But, Chastity gives me extremely good boundaries and her lascivious suggestion just rolled off of me.
I suggested, instead, that she dance with my bass player.
They danced and had a nice time.
Chastity really smooths out the rough edges in my life…
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I used to date a girl many years ago and we would do some fairly high-risk behaviors.
My recovery group stated that if I could stop a sexual behavior…I was not addicted.
I was scrupulously careful that I could stop everything that we were doing.
But…I found myself not willing to tell people about some of the things I was doing.
Now, I add to my bottom lines “I don’t do anything I’m not willing to talk about”.
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I am building a new life based on “No sex except to create children”…and me and Gummy having a lot of fun the last six weeks.
We have gone to the Exploratorium Children’s Science Museum six times…his favorite place on earth.
We have joined the California Academy of Science and have ridden their colossal Ferris Wheel twice.
We’ve gone to Pier 39, our tourist area, and ridden a beauty of a merry-go-round… and he has had cotton candy three times.
We have ridden two of the three cable cars left in San Francisco.
We’ve gone to half a dozen movies together where he has popcorn and candy…Not me of course, LOL
We’ve explored several toy dealerships I have bought many police cars, fire engines and race cars that we have enjoyed endlessly.
We have joined the YMCA and played basketball three times and have swam, swum or swim twice.
We have shopped at Macy’s Downtown twice, seen their Christmas tree twice and their ice skating rink once.
We go every Sunday morning to a friends house and listen to a $150,000 analog stereo.
Chastity really does give you more energy…and I like to spend it on my son.
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I have realized that I would rather have family (with my son and wife), without sex, love, romance and relationship…than have sex, love romance and relationship with someone else.
I guess I am gonna get real good at this Chastity thing…
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Early in my life, I really wanted to be with a woman.
Actually, I really didn’t want to be with myself.
But the real reason that I didn’t want to be with myself was that I was not in touch with my soul.
Without being in touch with my soul there is, as AA says “A God-sized hole” in me, with the wind just rushing in and out.
But, to find my soul I had to give up my obsessions, the most obvious obsession being, wanting to be with a woman.
Chastity, for me, leads me to my soul.
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I went to the Joshua Tree Desert with the Prior…to “Talk to Jesus”.
Within 20 seconds my Higher Power had spoken to me… And we turned around.
There is something very special about the desert, for me.
Thank you Jesus!