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Act With Courage changes every six months the last 8 years.
We are changing again:
Using “Written step work” as an example, Saleh, Saroshe and Syad are writing what can clumsily be described as Lectio Divina on the Mercy Offices, 50 at a time, and then sharing their writing with each other, with me commenting, live.
They are having to work hard… But you can see a noticeable increase in their day count.
The Mercy Offices are used as a primary text because unlike the Big Book of Alcoholics Anonymous and the AA 12 Steps and 12 Traditions they are based on the multiplicity of addictions.
Patrick Carnes, PhD, the founder of sex addiction, says that only 9% of addicts have one addiction.
That means that Alcoholics Anonymous misses the boat on over 90% of the people.
There’s absolutely no way they could have seen this on June 10th of 1935 at AA’s inception.
But, the Big book, on page 164, says “God will constantly disclose more to you and to us”
He has…now it’s time to use it.
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Step 10… We continue to take personal inventory:
Okay, nothing but guts and attitude have gotten me through this last year.
What I have:
- A chaste sexual sobriety
- A healthy body
- A supportive spiritual community
- Physical custody of Gummy
- Reasonable income
That is all I need…and more than I deserve.
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14 months today, January 3, 2023
No sex except to create children…I am going to change my mind.
I am grateful for my wife being sexy, when she was, and for giving me Gummy.
No sex except to create children…I am changing my mind
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Today ends two weeks of holiday vacation for my son.
The clearest example of God’s love, for me, is seeing him laugh when I tickle him. It lights up the sky. If that’s not God…I don’t want heaven.
But, every now and then, I need to talk to God, adult-to-adult.
In 10 days I’m going to the Joshua Tree Desert to see my oldest living friend, the Prior.
I need to walk in the desert and talk to God…alone, and with the Prior.
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For 34 years I have dealt with Fantasy, Objectification and Intrigue with one simple tool…Prayer
Specifically, “Sister, may no harm come to you from me”.
It works great. It knocks those middle circle behaviors right out of the park day after day after day.
But it takes a lot a very disciplined, meticulous effort.
As I continue to embrace my new bottom line I am finding a brand new way to deal with women.
Instead of antidotally responding to my own selfishness in reaction to their beauty, conversation, or their memory… I present something in advance.
I start it out, in my head, praying my new bottom line, “No sex except to create children”.
It is shocking how women react.
They want to be warm. They want to be friendly. They want to be open. They want to be funny. They want to be kind.
But, they need to feel safe… And I present that now, at all times.
God, I wish I had known this is at 15 years old.
Amen