You are challenging the secrecy that is the foundation of abusive family structures. You are taking revolutionary steps towards self-respect and respect for all children. You're exercising your power.
Although some stages in the healing process are absolutely necessary, confronting abusers and telling family members are not.
Whom exactly do I want to talk to? Why?
What do I hope to gain from this confrontation?
Are my expectations realistic?
Am I stable and centered enough to risk being called crazy?
Could I maintain my own reality in the face of total denial?
If someone has abused you in the past, it is unlikely that person will suddenly become sensitive to your needs.
What you must remember is that if your mother/father didn't protect you, it is unlikely that she/he will be understanding when you talk to her now.
You must be willing to relinquish the idea that your family has your best interests at heart.
The odds are that it will not be satisfying, compassionate, or responsible.
Don't underestimate the betrayal you may experience.
Except for the protection of children, confrontations are for you.
Imagine the worst reaction you could get. Can you live with that?
Or better yet, take a friend with you as a witness.
Make it quick. If you want to have a dialogue, do it another time.
You may even choose not to confront at all because the person is too violent or unpredictable.
You may choose never to see your abuser again.
"The hardest part of my healing process has been trying to end it."
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