Chastity Office #1
The Big Book refers to a state of “Neutrality “:
“We are not fighting it, neither are we avoiding temptation. We feel as though we had been placed in a position of neutrality - safe and protected. We have not even sworn off. Instead, the problem has been removed. It does not exist for us.”
Is that possible for sex addicts? Yes, it is.
What would you give for that kind of freedom?
What if it cost you some Chastity time?
What if it cost you a lot of Chastity time?
Would that kind of freedom be worth it, to you?
Chastity Office #2
Sex is not a need. It is an instinct.
Eating is a need.
If I surrender all sex, love, romance and relationship, just for a day, it’s amazing how simple my real needs become.
Essentially I need to feel loved and like I belong and also I need to feel esteemed by others to be happy.
That’s pretty much it…but I don’t know that until I surrender all sex…first
Chastity Office #3
Early in my life, I really wanted to be with a woman.
Actually, I really didn’t want to be with myself.
But, the real reason that I didn’t want to be with myself was that I was not in touch with my soul.
Without being in touch with my soul there is, as AA says “A God-sized hole” in me, with the wind just rushing in and out.
But, to find my soul I had to give up my obsessions, the most obvious obsession being, wanting to be with a woman.
Chastity, for me, leads me to my soul.
Chastity Office #4
Help me to be unselfish, just for today.
Help me not to see women as objects of my sexual desire, just for today.
Help me not to see women as possibilities to meet my own neediness for emotional safety, love and belonging or esteem (validation), just for today.
Help me not see women as occasions for romantic or relational intrigue, just for today.
Help me not see women as people who might meet my desire for affection or for company, just for today.
Help me not see women as objects of love that may complete an emptiness within me, just for today.
Help me see women, as I see men, as people to serve, just for today.
Chastity Office #5
As Lao Tze would say, “Help me on this journey of mightiness (health).”
Help me conquer myself, just for today.
Help me have a "springtime of the spirit"
Help me first, to be satisfied in conquering myself and secondly, to know peace, through experiencing my soul.
Help me to surrender my thoughts, to breathe in deeply and to experience my soul as often as I can today.
Now that I am free, help me build a new life, doing what you want me to do.
Help me to surrender anything that would distract me from my soul.
Help me to remember that as I change myself, I change the world.
Help me to remember when Al-anon quotes Blaise Pascal "All of humanity's problems stem from man's inability to sit quietly in a room alone.”
Today I will look for love within myself….gentle, positive, accepting.
Give me courage to act and wisdom to know when to act.
Help me to be positive, gentle and accepting of myself all day long today.
Chastity Office #6
As one of my highest order needs, the need for contentment comes from being what I want to be.
Help me to want something I can achieve, so that I will feel content.
Help what I want to be sane and attainable, so that I may feel content.
While service makes me feel happy, joyous and free, feeling content is different.
Help what I want to have, do, or be, be reasonable, just and sane, so that having attained it, I am content with myself.
Help what I want to be modest, so that it is attainable, so that I may obtain contentment .
Chastity Office #7
I will have mercy on myself.
I have mercy on the child I was as a boy.
I mercifully wash away the guilt I feel for what I did as a youth.
I am cleansed of my sin as God's tenderness flows through my merciful heart.
I am new.
I will protect the new me, as I am tender.
Guide me Lord in my new life, Amen.
Chastity Office #8
I have come for me
Help me to unbaffle and uncunn myself
Help me to walk like a King
Forgive my sins
Renew my youth like an eagle
Help me to breathe deeply today
Help me to exercise hard for my heart
Remove my character defect of lust, please
Help me to feel my soul so that I feel that I have enough.
Chastity Office #9
Help me be gentle with myself when I fail.
Help me to be as merciful to myself as a great father would be to his child.
Help me to encourage myself.
Help me to have faith in myself.
Help me to be proud of my courage.
Help me to love myself today by taking the actions of love, having an attitude of gratitude and contentment, believing beliefs that are positive, gentle and accepting, thinking hopefully and feeling everything I feel.
Chastity Office #10
Help me to take care of myself in chastity.
I will feel more.
Hurt is one of the feelings I will feel more.
When I feel hurt help me to remember that I need my anger more to protect me from feeling victimized, which is the number one addictive trigger to cause failure at chastity.
I am going to feel angry more…or I am not going to make it.