Chastity Office #1

Religion’s descriptions of Chastity:

I have found the "Pearl of great price"

I have found the "Kingdom of God"

I have found the "Kingdom of heaven"

I have found "Eternal life"

I am no longer a "House divided"

I am no longer a "Kingdom divided"

I am no longer "Serving two masters"

"Free at last, free at last...Thank God Almighty, I'm free at last!"

Chastity Office #2

Sex Addiction - Obsessive/compulsive sexual activity that negatively impacts other parts of the addicts’ life...or other people's lives. The compulsiveness can be expressed in many ways. Possibilities are through the use of masturbation, promiscuity, affairs, multiple partners, anonymous sex, sex in public places, strip clubs, lingerie parlors, prostitution, child molestation, rape, pornography, x-rated bookstores, voyeurism, exhibitionism, orgies and porn theaters...but are not limited to these.

Relationship Addiction - An expression of powerlessness in the inability to leave or stay out of self-destructive relationships. The sexual or romantic aspects of the relationship may not be highlighted. It is the clinging to stay in a current relationship or the clawing to get into a new relationship that characterizes this addiction. The solution here is 12-step recovery with an emphasis on multiple, healthy, non-sexual, intimate friendships to fill the unmet needs for family that the addict experiences.

Love addiction - An obsessive/compulsive need to satisfy the desire to feel whole or complete through using the presence of another person. When there is a feeling of “oceanic one-ness” in the beloved’s presence and a corresponding sense of doom, futility, pointlessness and despair at the prospect of never “having” the love object then love addiction is present. There may be no “relationship” in the conventional sense and there may not even be sexuality present. 12-step recovery works here, too, but the emphasis needs to be on learning how to love yourself thoroughly before you love others.

Romance Addiction - An obsessive/compulsive need to be excited by romantic, though not necessarily sexual or relational, activities. Endless series of brief relationships, inability to commit, self-destructive pursuit of the manic, fantastic and chaotic “relationships” as well as the demand that the “ideal perfect partner” be found characterize this addiction.

Chastity Office #3

I must fight for my chastity, when necessary:

Strive for absolute honesty

Strive for absolute purity

Strive for absolute love

Strive for absolute unselfishness

And be merciful and forgiving when I fall short of absolute perfection

Chastity Office #4

Intrigue - The transmission of sexual information or energy to see if the other person is available sexually. Sexual innuendo, double entendre, sexual jokes or simply bringing the topic of sex to the conversation. In its more subtle forms intrigue can be accomplished with eye contact, body language or intentional contact with someone who ‘triggers’ you.

Objectifying - Viewing another person as the object of personal sexual gratification. Also called "body parting" or "rubbernecking".

Fantasy - The use of memories of previous sexual experiences or the use of imagination to create sexual fantasies for the stimulation of sexual arousal. It is frequently, but not always, accompanied by masturbation.

Healthy Sexuality – Most of us believe that a healthy sexuality is characterized by commitment, love and intimacy.

Intimacy - The ability to share feelings, desires, needs, thoughts, attitudes and beliefs honestly and openly with another person; with yourself; or with a Higher Power

Commitment - a willingness to stay with a partner and work through pain and problems regardless of how you may feel. There is a limit to this commitment and that is when staying with a partner is clearly detrimental to oneself spiritually.

Love - actions, words and thoughts that are characterized by gentleness, positiveness and acceptance.

Spirituality - We define this for ourselves but a temporary definition might be-actions, thoughts, attitudes and beliefs that create and sustain healthy relationships with ourselves, others and perhaps a Higher Power.

Higher Power - The belief that there is a “Power greater than oneself”-if only the power of the collective wisdom of the group, which can be helpful when you are powerless.

Celibacy Period - a time of complete abstinence from all sexual behavior including masturbation and sex with a partner. This is initially designed to determine exactly what behaviors you are addicted to.

Chastity - Celibacy accompanied by no fantasizing, objectifying, intriguing, or any other activity which would arouse one’s own or another’s lust.

Chastity Office #5

According to Werner Herzog's 2016 movie "Lo and Behold: Reveries of the Connected World".

“If the information that passes through the internet in one day were stored on a CD-Rom and stacked up...they would reach to Mars and back”

Mars is 57 million miles away. There are 1.3 million CD ROMs in a mile and a CD rom is 74 minutes long.

Multiply that by the 57 million miles to Mars and you have 89 quadrillion hours of internet information per day.

Divide that by the 7.4 billion people in the world and you have over 12,000 hours day of internet information per person.

The most conservative estimates are that 4% of internet traffic is porn

That means that there are 500 hours of porn per day for every person in the world each day.

Chastity Office #6

About 40 million Americans visit porn websites on a regular basis”

“The number of people in the United States living with sex addiction is currently estimated at 12–30 million.”

“Approximately 5% of people successfully recover from their sex addiction.”

These statistics indicate that, on average, if you visit porn sites regularly, you have a better than 50% chance of becoming a sex addict.

But, the really scary number is that you only have a 1 in 20 chance of recovering.

The next time you say to yourself, “I’ve already been to two 15 minute meetings today”…think about that number. 

Chastity Office #7

(Excerpts from Think And Grow Rich, the most famous book on money in the English language)

The men of greatest achievement are men with highly developed sex natures; men who have learned the art of sex transmutation.

Sex energy is the creative energy of all genius.

The road to genius consists of the development, control, and use of sex, love, and romance.

The factor of personality known as "personal magnetism" is nothing more nor less than sex energy. Highly sexed people always have a plentiful supply of magnetism.

When (sex is) harnessed, and redirected along other lines, this motivating force maintains all of its attributes of keenness of imagination, courage, etc., which may be used as powerful creative forces in literature, art, or in any other profession or calling, including, of course, the accumulation of riches.

Highly sexed successful men: George Washington, Abraham Lincoln, Thomas Jefferson, Napoleon Bonaparte.